Saturday, September 4, 2010


I'm having a heck of a time writing my Victim Impact Statement. It's completely stressing me out, I'm pretty sure I'm shedding even more hair than usual.

I have no idea how to start. I hate everything I write.

How do you summarize the impact on your life in a few short pages? How on earth am I supposed to explain and properly capture just how important Craig was to me and how big a hole his absence has left in my world?

I have a million notes, 10 or 15 different paragraphs started. I just can't get it right, though.

I want the judge and the defendant to grasp the enormity of this, of what has happened. I want them to feel how much this hurts, to really get it. The problem is, I don't think I can. I don't think there are enough words in the world to make them understand.

So what the heck am I supposed to do?

I am down to the wire here... just a couple days left to finish it and make it count before it gets submitted.


I can't stop procrastinating.

This is the most important thing I've ever had to write and I've never felt so utterly incapable.


  1. You could use this blog as a compilation for the statement - you have laid your soul bare here and if the judge can't see how this tragedy has impacted you from what you have written here, then that says lots about the judge

  2. You have an incredible way with words and although none of us can every truly understand the pain you are in we certainly 'see' it through your writing. In every post I can feel your love for Craig, the loss you are experiencing, the hole you are left with and I have no doubt you will clearly show that to the judge. No, I don't think anyone can ever truly grasp what you are going through, but I know you will make a statement...a statement about your love, your friendship and all that was lost that day. Good luck.

  3. Emily, Stop thinking so much. Take a few minutes and write what comes to you. Don't stop to correct or change anything, write just as it comes to you. Let your feelings flow out. Don't picture your audience, picture your loved one and what he would want you to say about your loss and your life together. Then set what you have written aside for a couple of hours. Come back to this unpolished statement and use what's best for your statement. You'll find you do know what you want to communicate. Good luck!